From the 1983 movie "WarGames"
I'll always believe this. You can't win by fighting or scheming. You can't win by expecting the other person to lose. No, the one who truly wins is the one who doesn't play.
It doesn't just involve people. I think this applies to anything that causes you anguish. There's multiple things that we find ourselves not being able stay with or leave. It's just a state of being caught. There's nothing else there except fighting not to get hurt, having something to prove, or trying to find validation. You can't beat it. Ultimately, you just have to get up and leave.
You win by moving on. You win when you can look back and not be affected. You win when that whole scenario becomes irrelevant to your current life. You win when, maybe, you don't even remember it that well.
The only winning move is not to play.
2 comments:
these words are so true. Bitter truth maybe, but truth. They match my recent situation so well.
And btw War Games is an awesome movie! :)
Thanks for your latest comment. :) (Though it's been ages since you left it, but I have to admit I've been pretty busy over winterbreak.)
The book I quotted from was "Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close" by Jonathan Safran Foer; it has been turned into a motion picture starring Sandra Bullock, too. ;)
Another book I can recommend is: "A Thousand Splendid Suns" by Khaled Hosseini. That book, too, proofs that most men are cowardish brutes, and it is up to women to bring up courage.
About what you wrote: I agree with you about how the game works.
But don't worry about turning bitter. It's not bitterness, it's wisdom. Adults don't tell you that when you grow up, but their world is very decadent. All the things - Don't lie, be honest, be nice and fair - are rules that they never follow once they're grown-up. (Or most of them, anyway.)
What's most important: You have to grow strong, and even if you get hurt (which you will time and time again, inevitably) - you can survive it. Never give up on the dreams and hope you have for yourself, and work on fulfilling them. Everything will work out on the way. Just stay true to YOURSELF, and you will always have the strength to overcome all odds and be happy enough to carry on even if times are dark.
I wish you all the best
Ninon
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